When it comes to what people expect out of a “significant other” there is probably a generated list in everyone’s head of what they would like to have. And despite what everyone says, we do want someone that we find attractive. And while it is important to be attracted to a person you are in a relationship with, making sure that you are attracted to them because of their personality is way more important. 

Recently this discussion came up with some friends, and while it is not easy being a girl, it can’t be much easier to be a guy. I mean, with girls there is a lot of pressure to look a certain way, still maintain some form of smarts, be athletic and still remain feminine, and of course not cross any form of line that says “this is for boys, thats for girls”. 

With boys though, they not only have to worry about not focusing on how they appear, but also how they look at girls. I mean trust me, girls need to worry too, but boys especially. I mean to find someone who you truly find beautiful because of the attributes they have to offer personally versus physically is so important. 

As a girl, I think we are taught that we want our “Prince Charming” to come save the day, and while thats a nice idea, its hard to give guys that kind of pressure. If we don’t want them to expect perfection from us, how can we give them the same expectation?

As Christians, we are to become more like Christ. And I think the way we need to approach finding a significant other, is viewing them as the person GOD views them as, not as the world views them.

1 Samuel 16-7

But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”

  1. Check your heart, is it longing for God?
  2. Check their heart, is it longing for God?
  3. Their inward beauty will reflect outwardly